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All or Nothing: The Ultimate Saboteur

The infamous "all or nothing" mindset crashed a recent group session. To be fair, it always

does. That, however, doesn't change the severity of this way of thinking. When it comes to goal setting, "nothing" usually wins every time.


The all-or-nothing attitude is self-sabotaging behaviour disguised as motivation and excitement. Trust, this is not my first rodeo, so I am not fooled. If you are not convinced I'm going to give you the reasons “all or nothing” is an imposter in your efforts to reach your goal;


  1. Perfectionism: Going all in or nothing can lead to chasing perfection, where anything less than flawless feels like a flop. This can freeze you in your tracks, stopping you from making progress.

  2. Unrealistic Expectations: Dreaming of Everest when you're just starting to hike can set you up for a fall. Small steps and gradual progress are the real winners, but the all-or-nothing vibe can make you blind to your successes, focusing only on what's left to do.

  3. Lack of Flexibility: Life's a rollercoaster, and plans can go topsy-turvy. Being stuck in the all-or-nothing trap makes it tough to roll with the punches, leaving you feeling frustrated and ready to throw in the towel.

  4. Motivation Meltdown: When you're in an all-or-nothing mode, hiccups can feel like the end of the world. This can kick off a cycle of self-doubt and a one-way ticket to Quitsville, making it harder to keep your eye on the prize.

  5. Missed Chances to Blossom: Progress isn't a straight line; bumps in the road can teach you a thing or two. Being open to a more flexible game plan means you can learn from slip-ups, tweak your approach, and keep growing like a sunflower on steroids.

Having an "all or nothing" mindset is detrimental to setting and reaching goals, PERIOD. Let's talk about how adopting a more balanced and flexible approach to goal-setting can help you stay motivated, resilient, and focused on making your dreams a reality. If you aren’t convinced there is a better way, here are some strategies you can implement.


  1. Say Cheers to Progress: Celebrate each tiny step towards your goals. Progress over perfection, always!

  2. Set Realistic Goals: Chop big goals into bite-sized tasks. Slow and steady wins the race!

  3. Practice Self-Compassion: Treat yourself kindly through challenges. Learn, grow, and be a buddy to yourself.

  4. Develop a Growth Mindset: Believe in your potential to grow. Embrace failures as stepping stones to success.

  5. Stay Nimble: Life throws curveballs. Be ready to switch strategies and embrace change.

  6. Build Habits: Consistency is key! Form positive habits to keep the goal train rolling.

By taking a deep diving into these tips, you'll master the art of goal-setting, stay pumped through tough times, and savor that sweet taste of success at the finish line!






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